Due to some fairly serious ‘stuff’ going on this week which I have not been able to comment on, I have been a little frustrated with saying what I really wanted to.
And then I heard the sad news of the much too early death of someone I held in extremely high regard, and a broader consideration occurred to me.
I have, in my life, been fortunate to know some exceptional women. Some are still in my life, in one way or another, some I have lost, and at least one I have re-established contact with after too much personal prevarication.
The first will always be my mother. Sometimes singularly frustrating, she was one of the strongest people I have ever known, and for better or worse, laid the groundwork for the person I am. And still each day I hear her voice in the choices I make.
Similarly, the impact and lasting influence on the person I am, and the life I now have, come from the two distinctly different women who, for their own particular reasons, agreed to be my wife.
The first clarified for me the true value of the clear and independent thinking that a woman can bring to every aspect of life. the second proved it in spades by her professional and educational ambition and achievement. And by giving me the best man I know as a son.
She also introduced me to a singular bright, brave and engaging spirit, who has so recently been taken from the world, far too soon. She had a unique and razor view of the world, and for that, and her totality, will be missed by all who knew her.
In more recent times there have been more astonishing, astounding, and gloriously singular women who have come into my life; each creating a unique presence in the world.
The most impactful met me at my rawest, wrapped me in a hug, and gave me a whole new family. Her acceptance has been total, her understanding scary in its astuteness, her compassion bottomless, and her intellect a stimulating joy.
And through her I have met a wider and wonderful collection of stars that are bringing a wider and deeper understanding, appreciation and awe into my world of the huge diversity, individuality and joy that are embodied in women today.
Each day it becomes clearer to me that, if we want the world to be a better place, we need, indeed must, remove the reins from the grip of the patriarchy that has done nothing but lead us down a cul-de-sac of fear, division and desperation.
And if anyone wants some candidates for those who should be holding the reins, then I can give you a few names that would be perfect exemplars for future leaders.
These are the best of people, ones I am proud, honoured and humbled to know. And the ones who should be examined closely by at least one ‘leading’ woman who could really do with some remedial lessons in compassion and understanding.
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